Archive | September, 2010

Beijing Tea Scam (Beware of Female Strangers)

30 Sep

A simple advice to guys who travel in China. Tip which can save you a lot of money.

Be careful and be afraid of ANY Chinese woman (that you don’t know) who approaches you on her own initiative – especially if her English is good – and wants to help you, walks along with you under excuse of practicing her English etc.

Because at some point she will offer you to go to drink tea or eat some food at the nice place that she knows: and then you have to know – you are being scammed!

In any case, if you are adventurous and don’t believe the first part of my warning – then at least remember to NEVER EVER go to the place that she offers and always choose the place YOURSELF!  

The classic Beijing tea scam almost happened to my boyfriend on his visit to China. After he finished walking around the Forbidden City in Beijing, a normally looking girl suddenly approached him and asked – “How are you?”

For some reason he immediately felt uncomfortable and – as he later told me – he thought that she was prostitute. So – although it sounded quite awkward – he answered: “I am sorry but I have a girlfriend”.

“Oh”, – laughed the girl – “It’s OK. I just wanted to practice English. Can I walk with you?” He didn’t mind and actually they walked for a while talking about his trip in China and her studies. Then she offered to go and drink some tea. 

She invited him to some teahouse but – and, gosh! how lucky he was! – for some reason he didn’t like the teahouse and immediately went out. Then he said – “Let’s go to another place”, walked just few meters further and entered a little restaurant. The girl followed him. He occupied the table and began exploring the menu. But the girl “suddenly” got the telephone call and after finishing the conversation said “I am sorry, I got a phone form my friend – she wants to meet me. So I have to leave. Thank you very much. Bye bye”.  

After that my boyfriend called me and told about what happened. He was quite sure that he ran into prostitute or scammer, and boasted how clever and cautious he was to get rid of her without any “damage”. To say the truth, I was very naive – and reassured him that he was too suspicious and possibly it was just a friendly student who indeed wanted to practice her English.

And only today I stumbled upon this forum talking about Beijing “tea scam”. It was like “WOW”. 

For a more picturesque description watch this instructional video    


When Rich (Non-Chinese) Guys Date Chinese Girls

27 Sep

It seems that when Chinese girl dates a rich non-Chinese guy – she will always be a target for gossips and nasty comments.

It was true for Zhang Ziyi who had a lot of haters in China (since playing a leading role in “Memoirs of a Geisha”) and was accused in “betraying all Chinese men” simply because she chose a white boyfriend. The lucky man is an Israeli multi-millionaire Aviv Nevo

OK, so she is famous and beautiful… and I can understand that there is an amplified jealousy for her good looks, fame and the fat wallet of her fiance.

Maybe – if she would be just an average girl next door  – there would be more sympathy and understanding? 

Sigh… Seems not. The fresh example of Priscilla Chan – the girlfriend of Mark Zuckerberg (Facebook CEO) – proves that being a “normal” girl is not enough to avoid criticism. She is actually guilty for NOT being beautiful… 


Dating Game in China Takes No Prisoners

26 Sep

When I read through multiple posts about dating in China, I sometimes think that marriage is only for rich (and thus the small) part of Chinese population.

The material requirements for young lovers (and mainly for guys) who want to tie the knot are so high that one can only wonder whether there is a golden middle between “naked” wedding and the price tag calculated in this curious article.   

Today I found yet another post talking about the same problem. Its “hero” Qiang has a serious dilemma:

he can’t afford the expensive price tag on a new apartment… What’s Qiang supposed to do? He obviously loves his girl, but he’s faced with a true impasse. He can either borrow the money needed for the down payment on his future apartment, putting him in debt and causing him to lose face in front of his girlfriend’s family, or Qiang can abandon his love and his life plan for this young lady. He is between a rock and one helluva heartbreak.

This dating game in China takes no prisoners.

Wish that neither of my readers face such heart-breaking dilemmas.

Crystal Tao



Yellow Fever, Foreign Moons

21 Sep

This is the name of blog with a very promising subtitle – “A BLOG ABOUT TAIWANESE/WESTERN SEX AND ROMANCE”

Yesterday Gilad (the founder of Fili’s world) sent me a link to this interesting site.

I really liked what I saw!

It’s not some regurgitation of gossips that you can find everywhere else on Web, but collection of original articles written by different columnists. 

Not only that – the whole design of this site is very appealing and each article is accompanied with authentic drawings.

As for the content itself – you can judge about it from the list of the following links:

WHAT’S UP WITH THIS? Cross-cultural Confusion and Criticism

INTERVIEW: A Westerner’s View of More “Open” Taiwanese Girls

(“If a guy isn’t bad, a girl won’t love him.”) What’s your comment on this idea? 

Thursday August 12th 8月12日 星期四 Q&A : Building a Better Mousetrap? (You’ll never guess what this post is about before you read it…)

Finding Mr Right (and Occasionally, Mr. Right Now) 

The Lady is a Tramp?

Top 10 Sexiest Cities in China

18 Sep

Survey undertaken by the Chinese consulting company Horizon China determined 10 Sexiest cities in China.

And the winners are:

  1. Shanghai
  2. Hong Kong
  3. Chongqing
  4. Beijing
  5. Guangzhou
  6. Shenzhen
  7. Hangzhou
  8. Sanya
  9. Dalian
  10. Macao


Kill A Sparrow and One Child Policy – Dejavu?

13 Sep

Last few days the Chinese blogosphere was full of articles speculating that China is going to gradually abolish its one-child policy starting the pilot in five provinces from the next year.

Others received these news more sceptically. Actually, it’s not the first time that similar rumors are spread in media and quickly refuted by government officials.

Well – we will not have to wait for too long to see the results. Anyway, I wanted to look at the problem of one-child-policy from a different angle. 

Recently I stumbled upon a Wikipedia article about the “Kill a sparrow campaign” which took place in China during 1958-1962. Its goal was to exterminate sparrows in the countryside in order to decrease the losses of crops harvest.

But it seems that people are punished when they are questioning the wisdom of Nature:

Initially, the campaign did improve the harvest. By April 1960 the National Academy of Science found that sparrows ate insects more than seeds. Mao declared “forget it”, and ordered the end of the campaign against sparrows. By this time, however, it was too late. With no sparrows to eat them, locust populations ballooned, swarming the country and compounding the problems already caused by the Great Leap Forward and adverse weather conditions, leading to the Great Chinese Famine in which around 30 million people died of starvation.

Don’t you think that One Child Policy is another “ambitious” attempt to put Mother Nature on her knees? If so – I really fear what kind of punishment we will get this time. Some problems already begin to surface: the gender imbalance when there are noticeably more males of marriageable age than females; and quickly ageing population which will become a heavy economical burden in the near future.

Fortunately, people are not so willing to cooperate as in the case of Great Sparrow Campaign. Parents hide babies to avoid heavy fines and other sanctions. This is the reason why in 1990, the national census recorded 23 million births. But by the 2000 census, there were 26 million ten-year-old children, an increase of three million. 

But Beijing officials don’t give up. Babies that will not be registered by 1st of November face will be stripped of citizenship.

I don’t know how long will the one child policy (with its forced sterilization and late-term abortion) continue – but I am sure that the sooner it ends the better. 

Ethnic Weddings of Chinese Minorities

12 Sep

Today I stumbled upon a cool site and want to share this finding with my readers.

The site itself is an online shop for wedding items but the interesting thing about it is that they have a collection of articles (with nice pictures) related to wedding customs of different Chinese minorities.

Unfortunately they didn’t organize any archives to easily browse through their posts.

So you will have to start from this link about De’ang Ethnic Minority Wedding and from here just follow navigation links to each subsequent post. 


Not Just For Buck and Bang

11 Sep

Not all English language teachers are coming to China for an easy buck and bang.

Meet Mark – a 27 years old guy living in China from 2005.

He is a… teacher of English in college. And he has a Chinese wife (whom he deeply loves). And recently he welcomed to this world their first baby.

Of course, all that wouldn’t be enough to deserve a post 🙂

Mark is running a blog “Laowai Wen Shen” where he writes about tattoos (this is his hobby), life in China and Chinese girls. Well… after getting married both the number of posts about girls and number of posts generally went into decline – but I am sure that you will enjoy reading through some of his archives.

And here are my favorite posts:

A Chinese Girl’s Heart: Tread Softly

The Pros and Cons of Dating a Small-City Chinese Girl

The Laowai Rock Star Complex

In Defense of The Old Foreign Dudes with The Hot Asian Girls – Cut ‘Em Some Slack… 


The Power of Softness

That (In)famous Abortion Ad

10 Sep

About a year ago many blogs writing about China (and not only) reported about the advertisement of abortions provided by a Chongqing hospital.

This ad had a picture of a cute and innocent Chinese female student accompanied by the following text:

“Students are our future, but when something happens to them, who will help and protect them? Chongqing Huaxi Women’s Hospital has started Students Care Month, where those students who come to get an abortion can get 50% off if they show their student ids. Abortion surgeries are the most advanced in the world, won’t stretch (your womb), won’t hurt, it’s quick, and you can do what you want afterward, it won’t affect your studies or your work.”

One of the sites where these news were published has accumulated more than two hundreds comments and some of them are really worth reading! 


Chinese girls vs. Russian girls

9 Sep

Well… sometimes besides talking about serious topics, it’s important to have a little bit of fun.

It took me a long time to compile something entertaining after the quiz “Chinese or Not Chinese?”. But today I am proud to have finished writing two short posts titled “Russian Girls Are More Popular Than Chinese Girls”. Not sure, however, if my readers will enjoy them as much as I myself. 

Anyway, try them out:

Part I

Part II